• 2008-Oct-13 - The colleague becomes friends " Three do's and three don't's "
The colleague becomes friends " Three do's and three don't's "
Say objectively, colleague's relation is really different from the private friend. The colleague works together, there is cooperation that there is the competition too, will especially involve the interests relation of promoting and getting a salary raise etc..
Some people and colleague become good friends, has shared a lot of personal secrets, especially the discontent to unit and superior, but the result has been informed secretly on to the direction superior. Some people promote by one's own true ability, but original good friend regarded as he hide from he play some prank or other, climb up privately, felt been cheated, then " retaliate against " the personal secrets of letting out him .
However, colleague's relation is so important. Success of the work is due to the colleague's cooperation shoulder to shoulder; The difficult problem of a lot of settlement will recover from a slow start with the colleague's communication; The colleague can put forward the opinions and suggestions to your work performance; The chance that can give you motive force and study with the colleague's fair play, let you keep the happy mood at work.
In a word, risk and advantage of making friends with colleague coexist as two sides of the coin. Grasp " three do's and three don't's " These skills, we can try hard to reduce the risk while enjoying job market's friendship:
Third wants:
It is kind to you to think of others, you should be kind to him first. People, and contacts of people very flexible a changeable one, to the same as a person, can transfer to the heart diligently, can only bring the tooth with the tooth.
Equality to be kept on personality. Old staff's guidance of the new employee should be a kind of friendly help, the ones that can't always occupy a commanding position give us your comments; Between the friend, can't but good to another party in one party, become " uncontentious person " that bully .
There should be sharp insight. Under some occasions, discuss what kind of topic is all very that have an exquisite one in some ways, can't act only through assuming as a matter of course by oneself.
Three does not take:
Don't talk about the right and wrong too much. The one that don't especially be talked about the superior and other colleagues is not the strong and weak points, this is but also a kind of embodiment of job quality.
Don't practise the inner circle of people. If only have dealings with several particular people all day long, it is apt to let people produce " the inner circle of people " Impression, want exchange with more persons.
Don't avoid the competition. The on-the-job field, should regard the competition as the normal, positive, objective fact which no one can avoid too between the friends.
The competition can improve working efficiency, can promote the improvement of ability while participating in the competition. Modestly decline but not make a concession, carry on the benign competition actively.
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